February the 14th – the date that if you’re in a happy relationship can give you butterflies and joy, but if you’re single, you might often dread and want to crawl into your duvet until it passes.
Having a single day every year that puts stupid amounts of emphasis on love and extravagant shows of romance is really, really silly. Saying that, even if we know it’s ridiculous and doesn’t actually ‘mean’ anything, if can still be a struggle if you are single. I mean, being single when you would like a relationship is shitty enough, without this doomed day.
Believe me, I’ve been there. I’ve felt utter sadness seeing acts of public displays of affection when out and about whilst on my way home to a microwave meal for one on Feb 14th, even if I was happy being single. I’ve been exhausted of having to go on shitty, disappointing tinder dates because apparently that’s how people meet each other nowadays. And then having family members always asking if I’d met anyone yet… these things are all hard enough without the added pressure of having a day dedicated to love.
There’s going to be a lot of content online around this time of year for the best things to do on Valentine’s Day with a partner, but I wanted to also make some content for those gorgeous single ladies out there, to make the most of the day and to make getting through it a little easier if you too hate it! So, a list of ways to enjoy Valentine’s if you’re single.
I’d also like to caveat this post by saying that you do not need to be in a relationship to be happy. You do not need a significant other in your life to be your main source of energy and excitement. You can be extremely happy being single without a partner and being in a relationship shouldn’t be the end goal – your internal happiness should be. I hope that makes sense! This post is just for those who do feel a bit lonely come this time of year.
- Sausage Fest! Meet up with your besties and have a Galantines instead. I absolutely love the idea of having a ‘sausage fest’ party – invite your fav people round, each bringing their favourite sausage dish – think toad in the hole, casserole etc (obviously, substituting for veggie or vegan if preferred), drink wine and enjoy the company of those who give you energy!
- Write a list of things you’ve learnt from past (maybe unhealthy) relationships to enforce the fact you’re stronger and better now. Every relationship teaches you something about yourself.
- I think that Valentine’s day might be good oppurtunity for some self reflection and some positive thinking! Write a long list of things you love about yourself for an imitate confident boost and also start your day with some positive affirmations in the mirror for a good start to your day.
- Embrace being single and not falling for the hallmarks trap – being single isn’t a bad thing as it means you can focus instead on the most important person in your life – you.
- Write a list of what you want from a relationship. Think about the values you want in your partner, how they will compliment your life, personality traits. A little bit of manifestation doesn’t hurt anyone!
- Dig out your sex toys. Vibrators are incredible, who needs a partner when you easily reach multiples without one. My fav sex toy is the Lelo Sona Cruise – try it ladies, it’s incredible!
- Start something you’ve been putting off. In a relationships it’s easy to let go of hobbies or things that make you happy, so write a list of things you had put off doing in your past relationship and work your way through it – reading a new book, watching a film or visiting a museum etc.
- Get yourself some chocolate and flowers. These always make me happy and don’t need to be something we rely on someone else for!
I hope this has helped in some way if you dread this time of year. Just remember you’re wonderful and you’re person is out there and you have so much to look forward to. Meanwhile, enjoy yourself, let your hair down and enjoy the free life!
Lots of love, Katie xx