I know, I know, I’m so late with my goals and resolutions for this year! I actually planned them back in early December but am only now getting round to writing them up now. This was partly down to the fact that 1) I think it’s nice to set your goals in stone mid Jan as it gives you time to put them into motion a little more and 2) because I’ve re-jigged and revamped my blog! I moved over from blogger to wordpress with a fancy new layout which I hope makes navigating and reading the site a lot easier!
Anyway, back to the post…
I’m really happy with the goals I’ve set myself this year. I never do your typical ‘go to the gym, loose weight’ resolutions as I just know I’m setting myself up to fail, so I rather try and focus on things which will impact positively on my mental health and daily life instead! Here they are:
FEEL LESS GUILTY
This is a BIG one for me. I feel guilty about 80% of the time about something or another and it leaves me feeling down, worthless and even more unmotivated than usual! Also, it’s normally over such silly things that really aren’t worth my worry or time. I know that guilt can sometimes have a positive effect on people as it makes them work harder or make up for something, where as mine just leaves me feeling so deflated, stressed, not good enough and so it needs to stop.
I think it doesn’t help that I work at home and so any spare time I do have at home, I feel guilty that I’m not being more productive. I feel bad for sitting on the sofa in the evening and watching telly when I could be writing blog posts… you get my drift. Also even things like; I haven’t filmed 100000 videos and written 330 blog posts therefore I am inadequate and guilty of not working hard enough.
I’ve been trying to tell myself off (in my head, ha) whenever I feel these thoughts coming and it’s helped a lot so far. I’m allowed down time and days where I’m not as productive as other’s and it isn’t something to punish myself about.
Another one to try and improve my mental health and general wellbeing – S T O P AND E N J O Y THINGS!
I often get worked up and worry over the little things that I forget to step back and realise that my life right now is incredible and that I need to enjoy it! I am so lucky to have the most amazing job with lots of great life experiences and I need to relish every moment and learn to actually ‘live’.
Therefor if I’m feeling rubbish about myself or work I’m going to write a list of all the positive, great things that I’m grateful for to try and enjoy life in the present.
HAVE A ROUTINE
I’m pretty sure this has been a goal of mine before, but I want to nail it this year. I need a routine. Wether it be getting out the house once a day for a brisk walk, waking up earlier to do some stretching, reading before bed, visiting coffee shops for emails – I feel like I’d really benefit from having a routine! If you have something you do every day which helps, let me know!
I was unsure whether to actually post this one on the internet forevz, but it was on my personal list of goals and I’m ALWAYS one to be honest, so here it is.
I had sex once last year. My first year of being single after being in a relationship for 4 years and all I could muster was the courage to get intimate with just one guy. I think I had plenty of opportunities (especially with the amount of dating I did in 2017) but I always freaked out and talked myself out of getting physical if it was on the horizon.
But, I’m a 29 year old lady and I enjoy sex and so I want to have more of it this year. Simple!
I’m hoping I’m not the only one with these types of goals for this year! I’d love to hear what yours are too, let me know in the comments below!
The photos in this post are by the beautiful Rebecca Need-Menear (website here) (Instagram here). We actually shot these quite a few months ago but for some reason I felt too insecure at the time to post them at the time! Perhaps that should be another goal of mine, more self confidence!!
What are your goals this year?
Lots of love,