I had a lovely, lovely email from a reader of my blog recently which made my week. It was from a girl who, like me, has scoliosis (my story here) and because of this is very petite (like me), very pale (like me) has thick bushy brows (like me) and she said that reading my blog had helped her feel more confident about herself.
It got me thinking and I decided I wanted to write a post for you girls out there who feel self-conscious and down and insecure about their looks and body image at times. I’ve been thinking a lot about life in general at the moment (I’m sure my work mates are getting fed up with me pondering life’s greatest mysteries/questions at 10am multiple times a week). I think I’ve hit an age where I’m really starting to appreciate life as it is and realise that it is what you make of it.
It’s hard to get my head around, and even now my brain can’t fully understand the fact that we only live once; we only get one chance to live to the best we can. And so obviously, we also only have one body and face to do this in. I know we all have down days where we feel really crappy about the way we look, the fact our eyeliner didn’t go right, how our hair isn’t voluminous enough or how our waistband is feeling a little tighter than normal, but this is what makes us, us!
Now I personally feel I have a lot of faults, looks wise. I have massive scars all down my back from major spine surgery, I have a massive nose with wonky nostrils, I am SO short (under 5 foot) that I get mistaken for a child more often than not… but this is what makes me, me and so I’ve learnt to appreciate it and embrace these imperfections.
Think of it this way - Feeling crap about how we look will only make us feel even more unhappy about the more important things in life – if we feel insecure then we aren’t going to be the best person we can be, for want of worrying how we look all the time.
I certainly don’t want to mope around feeling sorry for myself, it’s not a nice way to live and you will certainly get stuck in a rut feeling like this and even starting to feel jealous at other people, which is not pretty. I think what I’m trying to say is you get one chance, you have been blessed with a body to live in and so appreciate it!
Learn to love yourself because others will and do, too. If you hate your nose, enhance the features that you do like, with makeup! It’s difficult being a girl because most of us do worry too much so we also need to learn to stick together rather than get jealous. Give someone a compliment tomorrow; it will probably make their day and it will also make you feel better inside.
I do like to think of myself as a bit of an agony aunt, so if there are any other things you would like advice or my thoughts on, then let me know! Send me an email or leave a comment below :)
What are your tips for making yourself feel better when feeling down and insecure?
Lots of love,